More on Jared

*New update at the end of the post.*

Finally, a new post! Really, every week is routine and nothing interesting is happening. Well, maybe one.. Roy is on a short hiatus now, yeah he is a free man!
But knowing Piddles, she won't let him off so easily.. So she declared him as a house husband for the time being, taking care of J and running errands for mum. He complained he's more busy than when he was working! =_=
I asked him to take pictures of J to show me what are they up to everyday. Heh..

I know you peeps have been coming to my blog to check for new posts, only to find the same 'o picture of J in shades.. So here's one of him digging his nose, ahahahha!! Shiokness with his eyes closed somemore.. :D
He's into Barney & Friends now.. Makes sense since his favourite colour is purple. Bringing him to Barney Show at Expo on thursday. At least will have something to blog about.. Lol..

So Roy is in charge of sending & picking J from school.

*Pretending to be shy boy** :)
Kids his age still look cute when they tuck in their shirt & their shorts riding up high.

He ate something green one morning and Roy took a picture to show me titled *Green Monster*.

Abstract Art. Maybe should get my brother to rate it. Lol.. Still holding the pen the wrong way.. -_-

As most of you peeps know by now, that I've been sending J to speech therapy classes as well as enrichment to boost & motivate him to speak out more. So far, he's enjoying them all.. specially Hess on sunday mornings. And I'm particular happy with him during the last class of the term. He was so good during the performance, performing so well & lively compared to the rest of his classmates. They were so lifeless & bored, my gosh. So I also didn't bothered to take pics of them, I just focus on my Jboy.


See, he was sooooo happy and totally at ease on stage. I'm a proud mummy! :D


And he listened to Teacher Lara's instructions and sing along to all the songs.. I'm almost shedding tears of Joy..
This might seemed to be trival thing but to me, it's a huge surprise cos J is super impatient and if he sees us, will want to run to us. I was just so happy that I wrote a lengthy letter to the principal to thank her..

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Dearest Jeanette,

I’m Jared’s mummy, Rosalind. I’m just dropping a note to tell you that we’re immensely proud of Jared’s performance yesterday.

I still remembered on the last day of school of last term, we were away on a trip and my sister & brother-in-law brought him to class. During the performance, Jared upon seeing my sister will get out of control and wanting to come down from the stage to go to them. It was highly embarrassing and also a disruption to the rest of the kids and parents. Lara was seen going to him and coaxing him to go back on stage. My sister overheard one parent actually commented to another parent on Jared and that where are his parents? Why they never bring him away and still let him interrupt Lara and his classmates? As a parent to hear this kind of comments from another parent has indeed given us much distress, sadness and even some anger. In my heart, I was beginning to question myself maybe I’m not been responsible enough or that there’s something wrong with him.

So when I spoke to Lara to explain and extend our apologies, she’s totally understanding about Jared and that she didn’t think that there’s any problem that she couldn’t handle for him. He is a boy who is just curious about his surroundings and loves to check things out instead of sitting down obediently on the chair. And that he needs a lot of motivation to catch his attention and to make him talk out loud.

Nevertheless, we brought Jared for assessment at KKH. The specialist there advised us that he has perfect hearing and he could understand and do the things that we asked of him, so she did not suspect that he is autistic and it could be some form of speech delay. This brought some ease to our anxious hearts and we’ve enrolled him to a speech therapist at the beginning of the year. Learning to talk for him is slow but nonetheless, ongoing as we can definitely hear him expressing more of his needs. We will soon be seeking a 2nd opinion just to be sure.

As you had mentioned to us yesterday, there’s no comparison. Each child is unique in their own ways. This will be a long process and we’ll just have to be positive and to show him more concern & motivation. I want to thank you for taking the time to talk to us and reassuring us some of the worries that we are facing. It really helped us to feel better in some way.

A very special thank to Jared’s teacher Lara. She is really passionate about what she does and she takes note of all our concerns for Jared and showing him so much of patience & care. We can’t tell you just how relieved we were when we saw how Jared behaved yesterday on stage and that he didn’t dash to us when he saw us in the background (I was prepared to hide). He performed the song & dance with so much of laughter & happiness. And that he’s constantly looking at Lara for assurance & guidance. He simply adores her! He feels so much at home now at Hess compared to when he first came last Jul and really looks forward to class every Sunday. Big thank you to Lorraine & Mira who have helped us to look after him when we went for breaks.

I would like to take this opportunity to say my heartfelt thanks & appreciation for all the love, commitment & dedication that you have showered upon Jared when he’s there for class. We’ll see you on 1st April when we’re back from our trip. Once again, thank you.

Yours truly,

Rosalind Tay

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ps: Then I got the nicest sweetest reply from the principal.. super touched to the core..

Dear Rosalind,

Thank you for your wonderful email. All of us were thrilled to read your kind letter. We adore Jared and care so much about his progress. We never heard the comments about the performance. But, only someone who doesn’t understand children would have made that comment about Jared. Most children in Play Group, Nursery and even some kindergarten students have had difficulties on stage. It’s totally normal. Please, never be influenced by what other parents say, especially if they criticise your child. You, your family and Jared’s teachers know who he is and care about him, it’s up to us to wonder about his welfare, not other people. Quite frankly, anyone who judges a child is a very small human being. Do not let that affect you, your family or your concerns for Jared.

A second opinion is always good, but at the same time, trust your family and teachers and the doctors. If you worry too much about Jared, he will pick up on that tension. Children are quite intuitive. Relax and enjoy that beautiful boy, all too soon he is going to be all grown up!

Lara adores Jared just as much as he adores her and she just wants the best for him and for others to see how smart and wonderful he is.
Please if you have any concerns or questions, or just need reassurance, contact me.

Warm regards,
Jeanette
Jeanette Buckley
Managing Director / Principal
Hess Education Centre

Jared Loo, you will always by Piddle's precious boy no matter what. We all love you very much!