The mind of a child is the purest, the most innocent in this world. They will never scheme against you, nor make use of you to their advantages, at least not now. If he does something to upset the adults, it's really not his fault, since he don't even understand or realise that it's not allowed or condone.

And making noise and screaming in the house.. well, isn't that normal for a bubbly kid to do, let alone a 19 month old baby?? Or haven't you heard of the terrible twos? He hasn't learn how to talk or express himself yet, of course he will find another channel to make his needs known. I know he is terribly pampered but he has been the only son, the only grandson, the only nephew for 18 months, of course we focus all our love and attention on him. Is that wrong?

I'm not saying all kids are noisy & spoilt by nature, there are quiet & well-behaved ones too. But my point is why J don't scream or shout at home or any other homes except yours? So many restrictions and don'ts. Cannot shout, cannot laugh, cannot wear bells, cannot touch this, cannot go there, cannot watch tv etc etc etc!! Then what you want him to do? He's screaming out loud in despair too, you know.

You think I want him to be there, for you guys to scold him for something he has no control or no idea on? And when he walks up to you, and place his tiny hand on your lap, you just brush him off and simply say go away lah. Is that something an adult would do? To deny a child is simply heart-wrenching. What's worst, is that I can't even be there, to protect & defend my boy.

Why can't you just be a little more understanding & show more tolerance to a child? Why take it out on him when he's so helpless against you & can't even defend himself yet? What does that reflect on you as a new parent?

So many tears shed just thinking that J is actually suffering in the comforts of your home.
My heart is just pained... Pain for my J and pain for you as well.

One more week to go and we see how.